ELI5: What does it mean to think in black and white?

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Thinking in black and white means seeing things as only two choices: all good or all bad, with no in-between.

  • It is like saying a crayon is only black or white, even though there are many colors in the middle.
  • In everyday life, this can happen when someone thinks:
- “If I make one mistake, I’m a total failure.” - “If my friend is late, they must not care about me.” - “This day is perfect” or “This day is ruined.”
  • But real life is usually more like a big box of crayons:
- Someone can be kind sometimes and annoying sometimes. - A mistake can be bad, but it does not mean everything is bad. - A problem can be hard, but not impossible.
  • This kind of thinking can make small problems feel huge, because it leaves no room for “maybe,” “sometimes,” or “a little bit.”
  • A more flexible way to think is:
- “I made a mistake, but I can try again.” - “My friend is late, but maybe something happened.” - “Today has hard parts and good parts too.”

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